You are good enough to receive the love that you desire.
You are good enough to receive the love that you desire.
You are good enough to receive the love that you desire.
I could keep writing that out repeatedly for both you and I.
Tonight, I had a session with a client that could have been summed up with that statement above. This client is in that very familiar, inner turmoil that comes when we are in a relationship that is not actually providing us with what we need and our partners are unable or unwilling to make a change about it.
This is something that is such a common human experience, and one that most of us have gone through to some degree, whether we are the one asking for the change or the other one being asked to change.
These situations are not so black and white that it is about one person being "bad" or "wrong" and the other being "good" or "right". There is more complexity than that. This is what has it feel so full of tension when we are in this experience.
We feel overcome with the doubts that swirl inside of our minds.
Maybe I should just accept that I will never get what I want.
Maybe I legitimately am not good enough to have what I truly want.
Maybe I want impossible things so I just set myself up for failure so really this is my fault so again...I just need to accept this.
For my client from tonight, she wanted to know how to just accept that she would feel this lack of love forever in her marriage and she just needed to focus on other things.
So, I asked her, "What is having you want to sentence yourself to this fate of feeling such a big void of love in your life?".
She paused.
It was the fear, of course. The fear that she would be in another romantic relationship should she leave this one.
Clearly, she was not good enough to get the love she has been asking for from her partner for 5 years, so why would she ever let herself think it would be possible elsewhere? This is what the fear was spinning through her mind.
This is something I see again and again with clients when they are in relationships that are not actually fulfilling to them and what they need and desire. And, that does not mean that the relationship needs to end completely, but that version of it does need to - that is, if they are willing to take a chance on themselves and allow for the faith that what they want is nothing out of the ordinary.
It is love that is wanted. That deep, genuine love where you trust that you are seen and held and valued solely because you exist. The love that has you smile at the thought of coming home to your partner or that sense of peaceful bliss as you drive up to the cafe to meet that person who you adore, and feel that same sense of admiration from in return.
It is not an ask that is beyond belief, but is one that is simple and extraordinary simultaneously.
And so we come right back to where we started and where I ended with my client:
You are good enough to receive the love that you desire.
Look into a window in your own life where there is some doubt blocking you from receiving the love that you want. Maybe it is in a partnership or friendship or even in work.
What is keeping you in that situation or relationship that is only perpetuating this false story that you are not worthy or good enough to receive genuine love?
You do not need to burn your life to the ground to start anew (or maybe you do...you are the expert of your life). It can be one simple action today and another tomorrow and another after that. One percent of change each day that opens you up to the possibilities that your soul keeps whispering to you is possible, only to have your ego mind scream it all back into the shadows.
Write your own life story. Write your own love story. What would feel too good to be true to actually receive? Let that be the guide.
With all the love,
Li
P.S. For the month of September, I am offering a 30% discount on all my coaching and sound healing offerings. If you are wanting to explore how I may be able to support you, set up a call with me and let’s connect to talk it out.
